We are ALL hard wired to desire to feel emotionally connected and secure in our relationships.
However, almost ALL long-term relationships at some point weather storms. And is it any wonder? For our lives are filled with stressors that weigh us down; from young children to elderly parents to addictions and sexual or financial infidelity. These stressors, or rather aspects of life; impact our relationships detrimentally. Sometimes to the point that pain, conflict and intense loneliness are the dominant feelings experienced within the relationship. Often, it’s difficult to see a way through and back to that safe feeling of connection and safety that you yearn for and once enjoyed with your partner.
However, almost ALL long-term relationships at some point weather storms. And is it any wonder? For our lives are filled with stressors that weigh us down; from young children to elderly parents to addictions and sexual or financial infidelity. These stressors, or rather aspects of life; impact our relationships detrimentally. Sometimes to the point that pain, conflict and intense loneliness are the dominant feelings experienced within the relationship. Often, it’s difficult to see a way through and back to that safe feeling of connection and safety that you yearn for and once enjoyed with your partner.
Couples and relationship therapy provides a safe space to explore how you got to the point of disconnection with your partner. The idea is not to apportion blame, but to help both parties meaningfully, emotionally connect again, and to identify their conflict patterns, so they can work out how to do things differently, with more relationship muscle, moving forwards.
With my support, we reflect on how you communicate as a couple and what happens when you get into conflict? What are your patterns? What are the unresolved relationship wounds that need to be heard for you both to move into a healthier space? We shall explore - always from a place of compassion - how your childhood histories may be unconsciously impacting your current relationships. For instance, an early sense of feeling insignificant and not as important to your mother as the favoured sibling, may be causing you in the present to be highly sensitive and over reactive when your partner is not available to engage in the moment.
This insight, may not be curative in itself but it gives us a deeper understanding of our partners. Which allows us to hold them with more compassion; which in turn makes it easier to do the hard work needed to get back to a place of love and connection.
Couples and relationship therapy sessions are £95.00 for 80 minutes and can be face to face or online.
With my support, we reflect on how you communicate as a couple and what happens when you get into conflict? What are your patterns? What are the unresolved relationship wounds that need to be heard for you both to move into a healthier space? We shall explore - always from a place of compassion - how your childhood histories may be unconsciously impacting your current relationships. For instance, an early sense of feeling insignificant and not as important to your mother as the favoured sibling, may be causing you in the present to be highly sensitive and over reactive when your partner is not available to engage in the moment.
This insight, may not be curative in itself but it gives us a deeper understanding of our partners. Which allows us to hold them with more compassion; which in turn makes it easier to do the hard work needed to get back to a place of love and connection.
Couples and relationship therapy sessions are £95.00 for 80 minutes and can be face to face or online.
This video from the School of Life website gives a good summary of why relationship therapy could benefit everyone:
Here are two articles I’ve written on relationships that you may find useful:
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/when-playing-nice-is-bad-for-your-relationship
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/the-golden-rules-to-fighting-and-thriving-in-relationships
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/when-playing-nice-is-bad-for-your-relationship
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/the-golden-rules-to-fighting-and-thriving-in-relationships